Is there a memorial Saturday in October? Dimitrievskaya (Dmitrievskaya) parent's Saturday

In Orthodoxy there are specially designated days for visiting cemeteries and commemorating the dead. There are only a few of them, so you need to keep a close eye on them and not miss them.

Several parental Saturdays fall during Lent. Demetrius Saturday is dedicated to the memory of St. Demetrius of Thessalonica and the feast of the Kazan Mother of God. It often happens that parental Saturdays coincide with their corresponding holidays, so memorial Saturday may be postponed.

Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday in 2017

In 2017, Dmitrievskaya Saturday falls on November 4, but due to the fact that the day of the Kazan Mother of God is celebrated on this date, Saturday will be moved to 28 of October. This year the rules will not change - churches throughout Russia will commemorate those who died for their country. This is a day of remembrance of deceased heroes and warriors. This parental Saturday is inseparably connected with Dmitry Donskoy and the Battle of Kulikovo.

Dmitrievskaya Saturday requires love for one's neighbor. This is the day when people who have left us are remembered only with love. Some people mistakenly believe that parents' Saturdays are dedicated only to remembering relatives, but this is not so. On October 28, all those who suddenly passed away will be remembered.

Traditions of Dmitrievskaya Saturday

Go to the temple to pray. Be sure to visit the church to confess and light a candle for the repose loved one. If you have the opportunity, visit a cemetery to clean up the gravesites of your deceased relatives.

Read prayers for the dead at home if you do not have the opportunity to visit the temple. Here is one of best prayers:“Our Father, accept God’s servant (name) into your kingdom, forgive sins and all the evil committed during life, because everything is Your holy will. Open the gates of Your Kingdom for all who are worthy of Your forgiveness. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen".

Also on Dmitrievskaya Parent Saturday, October 28, you can read the prayer “I Believe” if you feel that you need to repent of your sins. It would be even better to simply visit the temple of God to take communion and confess.

What to do on Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday

In Rus' it was believed that this day marks the transition from autumn to winter. Began very coldy, for which people prepared in advance. Despite the fact that many tried to complete their work on the farm even before Intercession on October 14, some for some reason did not have time to do this, and then they tried to complete the preparations before Dmitrievskaya Saturday.

The funeral meal is held after the service. IN Dmitrievskaya Saturday It is customary to set a rich table, which must include dishes that your deceased loved ones loved during their lifetime. The most important dish on the table was pies: the housewife had to prepare a lot of pastries with different fillings. In ancient times it was believed that this could appease and please the deceased.

During funeral meal it was necessary to place a separate clean plate on the table, where each relative put one spoon of his food. This dish was left overnight so that the deceased could come and eat with his family.

Before parents' Saturday, on Friday, the hostess after dinner must clear everything from the table and lay out a clean tablecloth. Then re-set the table and place freshly prepared dishes. Thus, in ancient times, the deceased was called to the table.

On Dmitrievskaya Parental Saturday, the family of the deceased should remember only good things about him, share warm memories that are associated with the deceased. This way you let the soul of the deceased know that you still remember and love him.

Despite the fact that during many church events it is strictly forbidden to do household chores, this does not apply to Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday. On the contrary, on this day you should spend general cleaning and then wash yourself. Our ancestors always left a fresh broom in the bathhouse and clean water for the deceased, to appease the soul of the deceased. The most important thing is that your household chores do not interfere with attending church.

On Parents' Saturday it is customary to go to the cemetery. The grave of the deceased needs to be put in order and cleaned. After this, pray for the repose of his soul.

On St. Demetrius Saturday, it is customary to feed the poor so that they pray for the soul of your deceased relative.

What not to do on Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday

On this day it is forbidden to scold the deceased. You should remember only good things about them, otherwise you may anger their soul.

It is believed that it is strictly forbidden to remember the dead alcoholic drinks. However, if there is such a tradition in your family, then try to do it in moderation. The souls of the deceased may become angry due to drunkenness during the funeral meal.

Also, during remembrance, you should not laugh or sing songs. Despite the fact that the holiday is not of a mourning nature, do not forget that on this day you remember loved ones who are no longer among the living. Therefore, fun will be inappropriate.

If your deceased relative committed suicide or was not a believer during his lifetime, then you will not be able to remember him in church and light a candle for the repose of his soul. In this case, you can pray for him at home.

It is probably difficult for each of us to come to terms with the death of our loved ones, but their soul is always with us. In order for our loved ones to feel peace in another world, it is necessary to read funeral prayers about the deceased.

Dmitrievskaya Parental Saturday is the day on which Orthodox believers pay tribute to the memory of their ancestors.
The remembrance of the dead is traditionally performed on the first Saturday of November, November 4, 2017. Since the day of the Kazan Mother of God is celebrated on this date this year, parental Saturday was moved to October 28, 2017.

History of Dmitrov Saturday

It’s very old and probably many don’t remember why Orthodox people commemorate their dead at this particular time. There are several Parents' Saturdays throughout the year, and this one is special...

Saturday in Holy Scripture is a special day. In the Old Testament it is a day of rest, and in the New Testament it is a day of forgiveness and remission of sins. And it is no coincidence that Saturday was chosen by the Church for the cathedral commemoration of the heroes of the Battle of Kulikovo. The day before holiday- Resurrection, when, according to custom, all Christians should be in church, believers gathered to pray for the repose of the souls of brothers in faith.

…That day was a day of great joy and great sadness. The messenger of Prince Dimitri reached the gates of Moscow in a matter of days, and by the time the militia returned, the residents - priests, monks and laymen, old and young - with icons and banners went to the outskirts of the city, to the place, below Yegoryevskaya Hill, from where the street leading to The Kremlin and big trade.

Now it is called Varvarka (in honor of the Church of St. Great Martyr Barbara, built later, at its very beginning).

From Kulishki one could see the domes of the temple in honor of the Holy Great Martyr and Victorious George - “Egoria”, as it was popularly called. Along this very street, asking for a blessing from the patron saint of Moscow, the Russian militia marched to the Battle of Kulikovo. It was decided to go back along the same street. The road of hope, prayer, thanksgiving and tears - that’s what it became for the militia and townspeople.

Wives, mothers, children and elders were eagerly awaiting theirs. “The messenger brought the news that the losses were enormous. “They went out to meet the prince and the squad, knowing that a great many carts with the wounded and dead were following them. Shouts of joy, crying, glorification of God, and over this entire sea - a heartfelt prayer for the repose of the souls of the Orthodox soldiers killed on the Kulikovo field.

Never before had the Russian army known such a victory. She was like holy wars from the history of the Old Testament, when God Himself fought on the side of ancient Israel, when victory was given not by numbers and military skill, but by faith in His undoubted and close help.

Just as King David, still a youth, came out to meet the giant with a sling in his hand, and with the invocation of the Name of God crushed the wicked, so this time the monk Alexander Peresvet rode out of the timid camp towards Chelubey, dressed in heavy armor, with only a spear in his hands.

On September 8, 1380, a similar miracle was seen by many thousands Russian army. Having struck the enemy with one blow, the monk fell dead and betrayed his soul to God, but this was enough for the Russian regiments to come forward with prayer.

On that day, the word of St. Sergius of Radonezh was fulfilled, who foreshadowed victory for Prince Demetrius Ioannovich, but victory at a high price. Of the 150,000 militias, only 40,000 returned to Moscow. However, from that moment on, Rus' began to live with the hope of liberation from the Horde yoke.

Immediately upon his return, Prince Dimitri ordered memorial services to be served for those killed in all churches and monasteries. Lists of the dead were immediately compiled and distributed to parishes and monasteries. Many warriors remained forever unknown, and in those days Orthodox Church She prayed collectively for the forgiveness of sins and for the repose of all Russian soldiers, known and unknown, who laid down their lives for Rus', for the Orthodox faith.

The city lived with one sigh of prayer. In front of the altars, in the light of chandeliers and under the arches of monastic cells, in the boyars' chambers and in cramped huts, by the lights of penny candles, the Gospel and Psalter were read with the memory of the fallen governors, thousands and centurions and all Orthodox militias. People who did not know how to read and write prayed from the heart with tears and bows to the ground in front of dark images and on the porches of churches. Every year on the same autumn Saturday, Prince Demetrius established a memorial service in memory of those killed.

Over time, the established custom changed somewhat: the prayer for fallen soldiers began to be joined by prayer for deceased relatives and for all Orthodox Christians who have died from time to time. It was then that “Dimitrovskaya Saturday” - as it was called in memory of Prince Dimitri Donskoy - began to be called “parental”.

Since ancient times, in the Russian Orthodox Church it has been a day of common prayer for the departed, a day of hope for God’s mercy. The custom established in the Church since the time of Prince Dimitri Ioannovich turned out to be the “connecting thread” that united many generations of Russian people with a sense of conciliarity and church unity.

What to do on Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday

In Rus' it was believed that this day marks the transition from autumn to winter. Severe frosts began, for which people prepared in advance. Despite the fact that many tried to complete their work on the farm even before Intercession on October 14, some for some reason did not have time to do this, and then they tried to complete the preparations before Dmitrievskaya Saturday.

The funeral meal is held after the service. On Dmitrievskaya Saturday, it is customary to set a rich table, which must include dishes that your deceased loved ones loved during their lifetime. The most important dish on the table was pies: the housewife had to prepare a lot of pastries with different fillings. In ancient times it was believed that this could appease and please the deceased.

During the funeral meal, it was necessary to place a separate clean plate on the table, where each relative put one spoon of his food. This dish was left overnight so that the deceased could come and eat with his family.

Despite the fact that during many church events it is strictly forbidden to do household chores, this does not apply to Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday. On the contrary, on this day you should do a general cleaning and then wash yourself. Our ancestors always left a fresh broom and clean water in the bathhouse for the deceased in order to appease the soul of the deceased. The most important thing is that your household chores do not interfere with attending church.

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On Parents' Saturday it is customary to go to the cemetery. The grave of the deceased needs to be put in order and cleaned. After this, pray for the repose of his soul.

On St. Demetrius Saturday, it is customary to feed the poor so that they pray for the soul of your deceased relative.

How to remember: Prayer for the departed

Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names) and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.

It is more convenient to read names from a commemoration book - a small book where the names of living and deceased relatives are written down.

There is a pious custom of conducting family memorials, reading which both in home prayer and during church services, Orthodox people They remember by name many generations of their deceased ancestors.

As a rule, bread, sweets, fruits, vegetables, etc. are placed on the canon. You can bring flour for prosphora, Cahors for the liturgy, candles and oil for lamps. You are not allowed to bring meat products or strong alcoholic drinks.

Signs for Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday and sayings

When it was warm outside, they said: “The dead are happy for us.” During Grandfather's Week, parents will also sigh. If your parents are alive, honor them, but if they are dead, remember them. The grandfathers did not know trouble, but the grandchildren knew torment. Do not remember the deceased with evil, but with kindness - as you wish.

Remember the living with goodness, and the dead with green wine.
No beer, no wine - and no wake.
Man is born to die, dies to live.
The earth is heavy, but when you pour some beer and wine on it, everything will become easier.
Remember good, forget evil.
A Russian person cannot live without relatives.
A man is strong with his family. And the field is great, but not native.
Dmitriev's Saturday - work for the partygoers.
Drink, don’t regret, remember more joyfully.
With cheerful memorial workers and the dead, it is more fun.
The girls are cunning on Dmitry (they are going to get married, so after this day there are rarely weddings in the villages before the winter meat-eater).
Round dances from Yegor, gatherings from Dmitry. It’s not always Saturday for the priestly guys of Dmitriev. Parents will have a rest during Grandfather's Week, there will be a thaw - the whole winter will be warm.
During Grandfather's Week, all of Rus' resembles a single great candle.

In 2017, due to the coincidence of the Saturday before the day of remembrance of St. Demetrius and the feast of the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God, Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday was moved to October 28.

An old woman comes up to the cathedral from the village: - Father, my deceased sister is having a bad dream... What is this for, do we need to pray for her repose? - It is necessary, mother... - God forbid... We must come to the November celebrations, remember my sister...

- memorial Saturday before the day of remembrance of the Great Martyr Demetrius of Thessaloniki (October 26, old style). For people of “Soviet” age who come to remember their deceased on Parental Saturdays, it is easier to remember this day by another date: where November 7 is the “red day of the calendar”, somewhere nearby in front of it is Dimitrievskaya...

The following opinion is widespread among parishioners: you can only pray for those who are baptized and who died in the faith, who confessed and received Holy Communion before their death (I know a monastery whose nuns teach pilgrims: pray only for those closest to you, and then with caution, for believers, and for unbaptized – even for those closest to you, it is impossible, they say, for a person to atone for his sins, but to pray for others is to take on their sins, this is insolence and foolishness before God...)

What is the answer to those who have adopted this view of prayer? I answer simply: our prayer and alms for the soul of the deceased are to help such a person.

And just imagine: one person is sitting on the shore, and another is drowning - who needs to be saved? Drowning. So who primarily needs a helping prayer, a believer or an unbeliever who has died? It is clear that for an unbeliever, for someone who finds it harder after death...

Of course, if a person died unbaptized, and even more so as a conscious unbeliever, if in earthly life he did not belong to the Church of Christ, then after death you cannot forcibly “fasten” him to the Church; his name is not written in the notes for the proskomedia - but to his relatives and loved ones, those who are not indifferent to the fate of the deceased, need to pray for him - both at home and in church - themselves, including during the funeral service (the prayer in the church, in the Eucharistic meeting, is performed not only by one priest, but in with i Church, all upcoming ones).

If we ourselves are Christians, this is our Christian duty in fulfillment of God’s commandment to love our neighbor.

He left earthly life in grave sins, unrepentant? Well, let’s leave it to God and God’s court, both righteous and - unlike our court - merciful. The Church reminds us of this at every service with the words of one of the litanies: “Let us commit ourselves, and each other, and our whole life to Christ our God.”

Funeral service. They sing on hooks.
Either the voices are so fresh, or this
The deceased leaves so quickly,
But in the cramped chapel an invisible wind rose.
She stirs the pages of an old book,
Burning over the lines, cinnabar neumas fly
Following the deceased.
The singing stretches on as long as it can
To support the soul that goes up
The steps of ordeal. And now - stop further.
Limit. Thinner
Palatal cratimats become deaf.

We are children, and adults are our dead.
We live in their past.
No one can go back to childhood.
That's what I notice
How small, simple, shaky our world is,
Bright, tacky - a playpen
At the inn! Especially
Compared to you, living mortal voice,
In following the deceased, he himself is ready to melt away,
On a windy spring in the chapel singing
Glory to the unknown, desperately desired
To the Eternal God.

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On October 28, 2017, the Orthodox Church will celebrate a special day of remembrance of the dead - Dimitrievskaya Parental Saturday. Dimitrievskaya Parents' Saturday in 2017 falls not in November, as is usually the case, but at the very end of October. Why?

In 2017, Parents' Saturday was moved to October 28 due to the coincidence with the holiday of the Kazan Icon Mother of God(November 4).

The Day of Remembrance of the Dead on Saturday, the day before the day of remembrance of the Great Martyr Demetrius of Thessaloniki (November 8, BC) was established after the Battle of Kulikovo, which took place on Christmas Day Holy Mother of God in 1380.

Initially, according to the establishment of the holy Prince Demetrius Donskoy, on this day they commemorated all Russian soldiers who fell on the Kulikovo Field. Actually, this is another meaning of the name “Dimitrievskaya” Saturday.

Over time, Dimitrievskaya Saturday became the day when all Christians “dead from time immemorial (from the beginning of time)” are remembered.

Dimitrievskaya Saturday is the last parents' Saturday in 2017. The next Parents' Saturday will be celebrated on February 10, 2018.

Dimitrievskaya Parents' Saturday - what you need to know about the memorial day

Dmitrievskaya Parental Saturday falls on the nearest Saturday before the day of remembrance of the Great Martyr Dmitry of Thessalonica (day of the angel Dmitry Donskoy). He was a warrior of the heavenly and earthly king. He defended the earthly king from attacks, defended his country, people, history. But he loved, knew, worshiped and served the Heavenly King. He protected the earthly king, and glorified the heavenly one and led other people to worship of God, to faith, so that after their dormition they could be united in the kingdom of heaven.

And Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday was established after the battle on the Kulikovo field - by Grand Duke Dmitry Donskoy. After the victory over Mamai in 1380, Dmitry Donskoy visits the Trinity-Sergius Monastery to commemorate the fallen soldiers. And a little earlier the abbot of the monastery, Venerable Sergius Radonezh, blessed two of his monks - Alexander Peresvet and Andrei Oslyabya - for the war against the Mongol-Tatar yoke. Both monks died in battle. And the monk himself during the war, when he offered his prayers to God, imbued with the Holy Spirit, saw how soldiers were falling and called each soldier killed by name.

Upon the arrival of Dmitry Donskoy at the monastery, a ceremony was carried out funeral service, commemoration of Orthodox soldiers who died on the battlefield, and a common meal.

Subsequently, a tradition developed - to perform such a commemoration annually, since there were 250 thousand killed in that battle and many families felt the bitterness of loss. A little later, they began to commemorate not only the soldiers, but also all the deceased Orthodox Christians.

Parents' Saturday - how to spend the day

On Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday, people visit the graves of their relatives and loved ones. Memorial services, funeral litias (services) are held in churches and cemeteries, and memorial dinners are held.

On Dimitrovskaya Parental Saturday, Orthodox Christians go to churches, light candles for the Crucifixion, not icons, and write the names of their deceased loved ones in memorial notes. Notes can only mention the names of deceased relatives who were baptized during their lifetime.

You can pray for the unbaptized over their grave or at home. Another custom characteristic of Dimitrievskaya parental Saturday is to bring treats to the temple for the poor. During the service, this treat is blessed and later distributed to those who wish. Also on this day, it is customary to give alms to the poor with a request to pray for the deceased.

To remember your deceased relatives in church, you need to come to church for a service on Friday evening before parental Saturday. At this time, a great funeral service, or parastas, takes place. On the morning of Memorial Saturday, a funeral liturgy is celebrated, after which a general requiem service is served.

The commemoration of the departed is an apostolic institution, it is observed throughout the Church, and the liturgy for the departed, the offering of the Bloodless Sacrifice for their salvation, is the most powerful and effective means of asking the departed for the mercy of God.

Church commemoration is performed only for those who were baptized in Orthodox faith.

Memorial services for suicides, as well as for those not baptized in the Orthodox faith, are not performed. Moreover, these persons cannot be commemorated at the liturgy. The Holy Church offers unceasing prayers for our departed fathers and brothers at every divine service and especially at the liturgy.

It is imperative to remember the deceased on the day of his death, birth and name day.

Days of remembrance must be spent decorously, reverently, in prayer, doing good to the poor and loved ones, in thinking about our death and future life.

You cannot have a feast or get drunk in a cemetery. There is an opinion that the wake of the deceased is an opportunity to drink a glass of other alcohol, but this is not so. The plight of the departed cannot be alleviated by this action. Only conscious prayer can convey our love to loved ones. Also not allowed on Parents' Saturday:

swear;
get drunk;
to swear;
speak ill of the deceased;
grieve and cry.

It is important to know that remembering does not mean being sad. To remember means to pray. The soul cannot die, it passes into another world - which one depends on the person during life. If he sinned, then his soul will suffer and languish. Only a prayer read by her loved ones will help save her from this. with special awe. Therefore, every parent’s Saturday it is necessary to remember your loved ones with prayer from the bottom of your heart. The one who reads it conveys love and gratitude that he could not give to his loved one during his lifetime.

Saturdays of remembrance of those who introduced themselves are special. They are called parental, due to the fact that all the deceased went to their parents and ancestors. Read here on how to spend this day and what not to do.

What not to do on Dimitrievskaya Parent Saturday

On this day it is forbidden to scold the deceased. You should remember only good things about them, otherwise you may anger their soul.

It is believed that it is strictly forbidden to remember the deceased with alcoholic beverages. However, if there is such a tradition in your family, then try to do it in moderation. The souls of the deceased may become angry due to drunkenness during the funeral meal.

What not to do on Parents' Saturday

There are many superstitions associated with prohibitions on memorial day. It is not forbidden to do housework and gardening these days, but only after going to church and reading the funeral prayer.

Most believers, when visiting a cemetery, pour alcohol into a glass at the grave or pour vodka on it, believing that if the deceased liked to drink, then they are helping him. This is unacceptable, since the soul of the deceased may suffer for the sin of drinking wine even after death.

You cannot have a feast or get drunk in a cemetery.

The Orthodox calendar is an obligatory and integral part of the life of believers.
By looking into it, you can find out the dates of Lent and holidays, the days of parental Saturday, and also plan your schedule for the next year - working days, weekends, planting days, fasting days and memorial days.

Parents' Saturdays in 2017 have clearly established dates. If you don’t have time to go to church and light a candle, then you should definitely go to the graves of the departed. Deliver flowers, clean up and pay respects.

There are not many parent's Saturdays throughout the year, but they allow us to stop in the daily bustle and remember, at least for a minute, about those people who were and remain very dear to us. It is important to have the whole meaning of Lent in your heart and limit yourself to weaknesses.

October 28 - Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday. The holiday is named in honor of Demetrius of Thessalonica, the holy great martyr. This day was originally set aside to commemorate the deceased soldiers who fought at the Battle of Kulikovo. Now Dmitrievskaya Parental Saturday is a day of remembrance of all deceased Orthodox Christians.

Every Orthodox Christian honors sacredly church holidays and spends time in prayer. They open their souls to the Lord, cleanse their consciousness and help them take the righteous path. Words coming from the heart always find a response in Heaven, so there is no place for prayer words huge role. You can pray at home in front of holy images, by candlelight, or simply in a moment of weakness and doubt.

What to do on Parents' Day

Enough a large number of People visit relatives and friends at the cemetery on Easter. Many, unfortunately, adhere to the blasphemous custom of accompanying visits to the dead with drunken wild revelry. And those who do not do this very often do not even know when on Easter days they can (and should) remember the dead.

The first commemoration of the deceased after Easter takes place on the second Easter week(week), after Fomin Sunday, on Tuesday. And the widespread tradition of going to the cemetery on the Easter holiday itself sharply contradicts the institutions of the Church: before the ninth day from Easter, commemoration of the dead cannot be performed. If a person passes into another world on Easter, then he is buried according to a special Easter rite.

Like many Orthodox clergy, priest Valery Chislov, rector of the church in honor of the Dormition of the Blessed Virgin Mary at the Assumption Cemetery in Chelyabinsk, warns against rash actions and other actions committed out of ignorance on the feast of Radonitsa:

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“It should be remembered that a cemetery is a place where one should behave with reverence. It is sad to see how some people drink vodka there and sing worldly songs. Someone crumbles bread and eggs onto the grave mound and pours alcohol. Sometimes they get into a real riot. All this is more reminiscent of pagan funeral feasts and is unacceptable for Christians. If we already took food to the cemetery, it is better to distribute it to the poor. Let them pray for our departed, and then the Lord may send some consolation to our relatives.”

When you come to the cemetery on the feast of Radonitsa, you need to light a candle and perform litia (pray intensely). To perform litia during the commemoration of the dead, a priest should be invited. You can also read the Akathist about the repose of the dead. Then you need to clean up the grave, be silent for a while, remembering the deceased.

There is no need to drink or eat in a cemetery, it is unacceptable to pour alcohol on a grave mound - these actions insult the memory of the dead. The tradition of leaving a glass of vodka with bread on a grave is a relic of pagan culture and should not be observed in Christian Orthodox families. It is better to give food to the poor or hungry.