Centurion. How independent I was. Expositions to the collection of OGE

Teacher and publicist N. Mikhailova raises the ever-present problem of growing up and shows what happens to eleventh graders as they grow up. Boys and girls don't quarrel. They look around at their classmates and they like everyone. There are no more school nicknames. In literature lessons, they delve into the topic of love: they argue, “discuss loudly and passionately” and books from school curriculum come up with an unexpected sequel.

The narrator's position is to convey to readers the amazing process of saying goodbye to school. N. Mikhailova described parting with school emotionally, using exclamation and interrogative sentences, sentences with ellipses that express some kind of reticence, a secret that has not yet been discovered by these young people.

I agree with N. Mikhailova that entering the adult world is a fun, joyful time, but it is also a time of making serious decisions and realizing responsibility for one’s actions.

I would like to add that when growing up, a person often makes mistakes, for example, as he grew up main character stories by A.S. Pushkin “ Captain's daughter» Petr Grinev. Instead of serving in St. Petersburg, he was sent to serve in a distant garrison. Together with the servant Savelich, they stopped at a tavern, where Petrusha met the captain of the hussar regiment Ivan Ivanovich Zurin, lost one hundred rubles to him at billiards and returned to drunk. Wanting to show his ability to be independent, he was rude to the servant, calling him a brat and telling him that he himself would be the manager of his own funds. Subsequently, Grinev realized that he had done wrong, admitted guilt and asked Savelich for forgiveness. Having gone through the mistakes of growing up in life, Pyotr Grinev became a noble defender of his beloved girl, a man of honor and duty.

And here is what the writer Yu. Yakovlev advises us in the article “How to become an adult?”, which was published in Soviet times in the newspaper "Pionerskaya Pravda".

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Yuri Yakovlevich Yakovlev was born on June 22, 1922 in Leningrad (now St. Petersburg). Back in childhood future writer was a member of the Literary Club, and his very first poems were published in the school wall newspaper.

After finishing school, six months before the start of the Great Patriotic War, eighteen-year-old Yu. Yakovlev was drafted into the army. That is why it sounds so truthful and realistic in the writer’s stories. military theme. “My youth is connected with the war, with the army. For six years I was an ordinary soldier,” he wrote. There, at the front, Yu. Yakovlev was first a gunner of an anti-aircraft battery, and then an employee of the front-line newspaper “Alarm,” for which he wrote poetry and essays during quiet hours. Then the front-line journalist made the final decision to become a writer and immediately after the war he entered the Moscow Literary Institute. A.M. Gorky.

The very first book young poet There was a collection of poems for adults about everyday life in the army, “Our Address,” published in 1949; later the collections “In Our Regiment” (1951) and “The Sons Are Growing” (1955) appeared. Then Yu. Yakovlev began publishing thin poetry books for children. But, as it turned out, poetry was not his main calling. After the publication of the short story “Boys Station” in 1960, Yu. Yakovlev began to give preference to prose. Multifaceted and talented person, he also tried himself in cinema: several animated and feature films(“Umka”, “Horseman over the city” and others).

Yu. Yakovlev is one of those children's writers who is sincerely interested in inner world child and teenager. He told the guys: “Do you think that... amazing life somewhere far, far away. And she, it turns out, is next to you. There are many difficult and sometimes unfair things in this life. And not all people are good, and not always lucky. But if a warm heart beats in your chest, it, like a compass, will lead you to victory over injustice, it will tell you what to do, it will help you find in life good people. It is very difficult to perform noble deeds, but each such act elevates you in your own eyes, and ultimately it is from such actions that a new life is formed.”

Yu. Yakovlev makes his young reader an interlocutor - not leaving him alone with difficulties, but inviting him to see how his peers cope with problems. The heroes of Yakovlev’s stories are ordinary children, schoolchildren. Some are modest and timid, some are dreamy and brave, but they all have one thing in common: every day Yakovlev’s heroes discover something new in themselves and in the world around them.

“My heroes are my priceless wild rosemary branches,” said the writer. Ledum is an unremarkable shrub. In early spring it looks like a broom of bare twigs. But if these branches are placed in water, a miracle will happen: they will bloom with small light purple flowers, while there is still snow outside the window.

Such twigs were once brought to class by the main character of the story “Ledum”, a boy named Kosta. He didn’t stand out at all among the guys; he usually yawned in class and was almost always silent. “People are distrustful of silent people. Nobody knows what is on their mind: good or bad. Just in case, they think it’s bad. Teachers also don’t like silent people, because although they sit quietly in class, at the blackboard you have to pull every word out of them with pincers.” In a word, Costa was a mystery to the class. And one day the teacher Evgenia Ivanovna, in order to understand the boy, decided to follow him. Immediately after school, Kosta went for a walk with the fiery red setter, whose owner was old man on crutches; then he ran to the house, where a boxer abandoned by his owners who had left was waiting for him on the balcony; then to the sick boy and his dachshund - “a black firebrand on four legs.” At the end of the day, Costa went outside the city, to the beach, where a lonely old dog lived, faithfully waiting for his dead fisherman owner. Tired Kosta returned home late, but he still had homework to do! Having learned the secret of her student, Evgenia Ivanovna looked at him differently: in her eyes, Kosta became not just a boy who always yawned in class, but a person who helps helpless animals and sick people.

This small work contains the secret of Yu. Yakovlev’s attitude towards his child heroes. The writer is concerned What allows little man open up, “bloom”, like wild rosemary. Just as wild rosemary unexpectedly blooms, Yu. Yakovlev’s heroes also reveal themselves from an unexpected side. And it often happens that the hero himself discovers new things in himself. Such a “blooming branch of wild rosemary” can be called “Knight Vasya,” the hero of the story of the same name.

Secretly from everyone, Vasya dreamed of becoming a knight: fighting dragons and freeing beautiful princesses, performing feats. But it turned out that in order to perform a noble deed, you don’t need shiny armor. One winter Vasya saved little boy, drowning in an ice hole. Saved, but modestly kept silent about it. His fame undeservedly went to another schoolboy who simply took the wet and frightened kid home. No one knew about Vasya’s truly knightly deed. This injustice makes the reader feel offended and forces him to look around: maybe this happens not only in books, maybe it’s happening somewhere near you?

In literature, often one act can reveal the character of the hero; by it one can judge positive character committed it or negative. In the story “Bavaclava” Lenya Sharov forgot to buy eye drops for his grandmother. He often forgot about his grandmother’s requests, forgot to say “thank you” to her... He forgot while his grandmother, whom he called Bavaklava, was alive. She was always there, and therefore caring for her seemed unnecessary, insignificant - just think about it, I’ll do it later! Everything changed after her death. Then suddenly it turned out to be very important for the boy to bring medicine that no one needed from the pharmacy.

But is it possible to say unequivocally from the very beginning that Lenya is a negative character? How often do we real life are you attentive to your loved ones? The boy thought that the world will always be the same: mom and dad, grandma, school. Death disrupted the usual course of things for the hero. “All his life he blamed others: parents, teachers, comrades... But Bavaklava suffered the most. He shouted at her and was rude. He sulked and walked around dissatisfied. Today he looked at himself for the first time... with different eyes. How callous, rude, and inattentive he turns out to be!” It's a pity that sometimes the consciousness of one's own guilt comes too late.

Yu. Yakovlev calls to be more sensitive to your family and friends, but everyone makes mistakes, the only question is what lessons we learn from them.

An unusual situation, a new, unfamiliar feeling can force a person to not only reveal unexpected sides your character, but also force you to change, overcome your fears and your shyness.

The story “Letter to Marina” is about how difficult it turns out to be to confess your feelings to the girl you like! It seems easy to write frankly everything that was not said during a meeting. How to start the promised letter: “dear”, “sweetheart”, “the best”?.. So many thoughts, memories, but... instead of a long one interesting story Only a few general phrases about vacation and summer come out. But they are also significant for Kostya - this is the first difficult step towards communicating with a girl in a new situation for him.

It’s even more difficult to walk a girl home after overcoming your shyness. It turned out to be much easier for Kir to climb onto the slippery roof tall house and find out what the mysterious weather vane that Aina liked looks like (“Horseman Galloping Over the City”).

Yu. Yakovlev has always been interested in the time of childhood, when, in his words, “the fate of the future person is decided... In children, I always try to discern tomorrow’s adult. But for me, an adult also begins in childhood.”

Yuri Yakovlev

Stories and novellas

I children's writer and I'm proud of it.

Yuri Yakovlevich Yakovlev was born on June 22, 1922 in Leningrad (now St. Petersburg). Even as a child, the future writer was a member of the Literary Club, and his very first poems were published in the school wall newspaper.

After graduating from school, six months before the start of the Great Patriotic War, eighteen-year-old Yu. Yakovlev was drafted into the army. That is why the military theme sounds so truthful and realistic in the writer’s stories. “My youth is connected with the war, with the army. For six years I was an ordinary soldier,” he wrote. There, at the front, Yu. Yakovlev was first a gunner of an anti-aircraft battery, and then an employee of the front-line newspaper “Alarm,” for which he wrote poetry and essays during quiet hours. Then the front-line journalist made the final decision to become a writer and immediately after the war he entered the Moscow Literary Institute. A.M. Gorky.

The young poet’s very first book was a collection of poems for adults about the everyday life of the army, “Our Address,” published in 1949; later the collections “In Our Regiment” (1951) and “Sons Growing Up” (1955) appeared. Then Yu. Yakovlev began publishing thin poetry books for children. But, as it turned out, poetry was not his main calling. After the publication of the short story “Boys Station” in 1960, Yu. Yakovlev began to give preference to prose. A multifaceted and talented person, he also tried himself in cinema: several animated and feature films were made from his scripts (“Umka”, “Horseman over the City” and others).

Yu. Yakovlev is one of those children's writers who are sincerely interested in the inner world of a child and teenager. He told the guys: “You think that... an amazing life is somewhere far, far away. And she, it turns out, is next to you. There are many difficult and sometimes unfair things in this life. And not all people are good, and not always lucky. But if a warm heart beats in your chest, it, like a compass, will lead you to victory over injustice, it will tell you what to do, it will help you find good people in life. It is very difficult to perform noble deeds, but each such act elevates you in your own eyes, and ultimately it is from such actions that a new life is formed.”

Such twigs were once brought to class by the main character of the story “Ledum”, a boy named Kosta. He didn’t stand out at all among the guys; he usually yawned in class and was almost always silent. “People are distrustful of silent people. Nobody knows what is on their mind: good or bad. Just in case, they think it’s bad. Teachers also don’t like silent people, because although they sit quietly in class, at the blackboard you have to pull every word out of them with pincers.” In a word, Costa was a mystery to the class. And one day the teacher Evgenia Ivanovna, in order to understand the boy, decided to follow him. Right after school, Costa went for a walk with a fiery red setter, whose owner was an elderly man on crutches; then he ran to the house, where a boxer abandoned by his owners who had left was waiting for him on the balcony; then to the sick boy and his dachshund - “a black firebrand on four legs.” At the end of the day, Costa went outside the city, to the beach, where a lonely old dog lived, faithfully waiting for his dead fisherman owner. Tired Kosta returned home late, but he still had homework to do! Having learned the secret of her student, Evgenia Ivanovna looked at him differently: in her eyes, Kosta became not just a boy who always yawned in class, but a person who helps helpless animals and sick people.

This small work contains the secret of Yu. Yakovlev’s attitude towards his child heroes. The writer is concerned What it allows the little person to open up, “bloom”, like wild rosemary. Just as wild rosemary unexpectedly blooms, Yu. Yakovlev’s heroes also reveal themselves from an unexpected side. And it often happens that the hero himself discovers new things in himself. Such a “blooming branch of wild rosemary” can be called “Knight Vasya,” the hero of the story of the same name.

Secretly from everyone, Vasya dreamed of becoming a knight: fighting dragons and freeing beautiful princesses, performing feats. But it turned out that in order to perform a noble deed, you don’t need shiny armor. One winter, Vasya saved a little boy who was drowning in an ice hole. Saved, but modestly kept silent about it. His fame undeservedly went to another schoolboy who simply took the wet and frightened kid home. No one knew about Vasya’s truly knightly deed. This injustice makes the reader feel offended and forces him to look around: maybe this happens not only in books, maybe it’s happening somewhere near you?

In literature, often one action can reveal the character of a hero; from it one can judge whether a positive character committed it or a negative one. In the story “Bavaclava” Lenya Sharov forgot to buy eye drops for his grandmother. He often forgot about his grandmother’s requests, forgot to say “thank you” to her... He forgot while his grandmother, whom he called Bavaklava, was alive. She was always there, and therefore caring for her seemed unnecessary, insignificant - just think about it, I’ll do it later! Everything changed after her death. Then suddenly it turned out to be very important for the boy to bring medicine that no one needed from the pharmacy.

But is it possible to say unequivocally from the very beginning that Lenya is a negative character? In real life, are we often attentive to our loved ones? The boy thought that the world around him would always be the same: mom and dad, grandma, school. Death disrupted the usual course of things for the hero. “All his life he blamed others: parents, teachers, comrades... But Bavaklava suffered the most. He shouted at her and was rude. He sulked and walked around dissatisfied. Today he looked at himself for the first time... with different eyes. How callous, rude, and inattentive he turns out to be!” It's a pity that sometimes the consciousness of one's own guilt comes too late.

Yu. Yakovlev calls to be more sensitive to your family and friends, but everyone makes mistakes, the only question is what lessons we learn from them.

An unusual situation, a new, unfamiliar feeling can force a person not only to reveal unexpected sides of his character, but also to force him to change, to overcome his fears and his shyness.

The story “Letter to Marina” is about how difficult it turns out to be to confess your feelings to the girl you like! It seems easy to write frankly everything that was not said during a meeting. How to start the promised letter: “dear”, “sweetheart”, “the best”?.. So many thoughts, memories, but... instead of a long interesting story, only a few general phrases about vacation and summer come out. But they are also significant for Kostya - this is the first difficult step towards communicating with a girl in a new situation for him.

It’s even more difficult to walk a girl home after overcoming your shyness. It turned out to be much easier for Kir to climb onto the slippery roof of a high house and find out what the mysterious weather vane that Aina liked looked like (“Horseman galloping over the city”).

We meet the already grown-up heroes of Yu. Yakovlev in the story “Bambus”. First we see a character like an adventure novel who lives “at the edge of the world, in a hut on chicken legs,” smokes a pipe and works as an earthquake predictor. Arriving in the city of his childhood, Bambus looks for the students of his class: Korzhik, who has now become a major, Valusya, a doctor, Chevochka, the school principal, and the teacher Singer Tra-la-la. But the mysterious Bambus came not only to see his grown-up friends; his main goal was to ask for forgiveness for an old prank. It turns out that once, while in the fifth grade, this Bambus shot with a slingshot and hit the singing teacher in the eye.

The halo of romance has disappeared - all that remains is an elderly, tired man and his evil prank. For many years he was tormented by a feeling of guilt, and he came because there is no worse judge than his own conscience and there is no statute of limitations for ugly deeds.

Develop your interests. A lack of momentum or developed interests or hobbies can make you appear immature. If you find something that you enjoy and become a “professional” at it, it will make you appear more experienced and mature. It will also give you new things to talk about with other people, whether or not they share your passion.

Set goals for yourself and work to achieve them. Part of maturity is the ability to accept your existing strengths, identifying areas in which you need to become even more proficient and setting goals for the future. Remember the future and allow it to properly illuminate your decisions in life. Once you set clear, achievable, and measurable goals, start working towards achieving them.

Learn to recognize when you can fool around. You don't have to be serious all the time to appear mature. True maturity involves understanding the appropriateness of behavior and knowing when to fool around and when to be serious. It's good if you can be frivolous different levels, to be able to reduce your mood to fool around to different scales.

Try to set aside time for yourself every day to just be lazy. You need time to let off steam and sit back. Give yourself some time (say, after school) to have some fun.
It is worth understanding that your frivolity does not always suit formal situations, for example, at school, in church, in the workplace and especially at a funeral. You will be expected to show consideration, not play pranks. So being frivolous in such situations usually signals a person’s immaturity.
However, in informal situations, such as with friends or even with family, it is appropriate to fool around. It may even bond you even more tightly to each other.
Set some criteria for yourself so you know when it's okay to be frivolous or make a joke, and when not. Do not allow yourself jokes and pranks of a mean or humiliating nature.

Respect others. We all need to live in peace with each other. If you do things to deliberately irritate others or don't take other people's feelings into account when doing something, others may view you as immature. Try to be mindful of the needs and desires of those around you, this will help you build a reputation for yourself as a mature and respectable person.
- Treating others with respect does not mean that you should allow others to wipe their feet on you. This means that you need to listen to others and treat them the way you would like to be treated. If other people are rude or unkind to you, don't respond in kind. Show that you are above this by leaving them.
Choose mature friends. Your friends influence your behavior. Make sure you hang out with people who make you better instead of spending your time with people who pull you back.

Develop emotional maturity
1. Don't become a bully or engage in bullying. Aggression often arises from feelings of insecurity or low self-esteem. It can become a way of expressing and asserting one's power over others. Aggression harms those at whom it is directed and also harms those who express it. If you notice yourself aggressive behavior, talk to someone you trust, such as your parents or school counselor, about how to stop it.
  
  Don't gossip, spread rumors or talk about people behind their back. Gossiping, spreading rumors, and talking behind their backs can hurt others just as much as punching them in the face, if not more. Even if you gossip without malicious intent, it can also cause harm. Mature people show concern for the needs and feelings of others, and do not engage in actions that might hurt.
  
  If someone treats you unkindly, rise above it. If you can, don't answer; your silence will send a signal that what the person said is not normal. If you can't let it slide, just tell the person that their comment was rude. If the person apologizes, accept the apology; if not, just leave.
  
  Be open to new things. Mature people are always open. Don't ignore something or dismiss an opportunity simply because you've never heard of it or never tried it. Instead, look at it as an opportunity to learn something (or someone) new and different.
  - If someone has beliefs or habits that are different from yours, don't immediately start judging that person. Instead, set it like this open questions as in, “Could you tell me more about this?” or “Why do you need this?”
  - Try to listen more and talk less, according to at least, at first. Don't interrupt people and don't say, “I think...”. Let them talk. You'll be surprised by what you learn.
  - Ask for clarification. If someone says or does something that doesn't seem right, ask for clarification before judging. For example, if you think someone has insulted your beliefs, take a deep breath and then say something like, “I heard you say ______________. Are you sure that’s what you meant?” If a person says that he meant something completely different, accept his words.
  - Don't expect only the worst from people. Participate in the situation with the expectation that everyone is a person like you. They may not have intended to be sarcastic or harmful, but they too can make mistakes. If you learn to accept people for who they are, it will help you become more mature.
  - Sometimes you just won't agree with someone. This is fine. Sometimes you just have to agree or refuse - that's part of maturity.
2. Be confident in yourself. Don't apologize for any quirks or quirks you have, even if others don't approve of them. As long as your behavior does not contradict social norms and does not harm anyone, you can freely express your individuality. Mature people do not doubt themselves and do not try to appear to be something they are not.
  
  Be yourself. The ability to remain true to oneself is considered an indicator of maturity. You can be confident without any arrogance or pomp. A mature person does not need to tear others to smithereens or pretend to be anything.
  
  Take personal responsibility. Taking responsibility for your words and actions is perhaps the most important part of developing maturity. Remember that everything with you it doesn't just happen. In his own life you are a disseminator of information. Both your words and actions have consequences, both for yourself and for others. Be honest when you make mistakes. Understand that you cannot control others, but you can control your actions.
  - Take responsibility when things go wrong. For example, if you wrote a bad essay, don't blame the teacher. Think about what actions you took that led to this result. What can you do better next time?
  - Focus less on whether certain things are fair. In life, everything is not always fair. Sometimes you don't get what you deserve. Mature people do not allow injustice to stand in their way of achieving their goals.
  - Control what you can. Sometimes you will feel like you have no control over your life. Sometimes this is true. You can't control the restaurant manager to hire you, or the person you like to agree to go out with you. But there are things you can control. For example:
    - For work: You can polish and make adjustments to your resume. You can prepare as best you can for the interview. You can dress like a professional for an interview. You can arrive on time. You may not end up getting the job, but make sure you make sure you make all your preparations.
    - For relationships: You can be respectful, funny and kind. You can control yourself around another person. You can be sensitive and tell him/her that you want a relationship. Here's what you can control. Even if things don't work out, you can relax knowing that you were honest with yourself and tried your best.
  - Don't accept defeat. Most of the time people give up because it is easier than trying again. It's easier to tell yourself "I'm a failure" than "well, this approach didn't work, let's see what else I can do." Take responsibility for your choices and choose to keep trying, no matter what it is.
  Communicate like an adult
  1. Control yourself. Anger is a strong emotion, but it can be tamed. Don't overreact to small and unimportant things. When you feel on edge, stop and count down 10 seconds to think about your response before speaking. This will prevent you from doing things you will regret and allow you to become more mature in your communication.
    - After you stop, ask yourself what is really going on. What is the real problem with what is happening? Why are you upset? You may find yourself angry about something that happened a couple of days ago that isn't really worth trashing your room about.
    - Think about a potential solution to the problem. Before choosing any method, think about different options. Which one will cope with what is happening?
    - Think about the consequences. This is exactly where most people stumble. “Doing what I want” is often considered the most attractive solution, but will it actually solve the problem? Or will it make it worse? Think about what the outcome of each possible method might be.
    - Choose a solution. After you have considered possible consequences of each option, choose the one that seems best to you. Please note that this is not always the easiest or most fun way! And this is also part of growing up.
    - If you need to say something, say it in a calm voice and back it up with a few reasonable arguments to justify your feelings. If a person just wants to argue and not listen, walk away from the conflict. It's not worth it.
    - When you are angry or overreacting, take a deep breath and count to 10. You must maintain self-control and not let your anger get the better of you.
    - If you have a quick temper, others may have fun provoking you. If you control yourself, they will lose interest in what they are doing and leave you alone.
  2. Learn assertive communication. When adults want to communicate seriously, they use assertive techniques and behaviors. Assertiveness is not the same as boldness, arrogance or aggression. Individuals with this quality express their feelings and needs clearly, and they listen when others do the same. Arrogant and selfish people do not care about the needs of others and are only focused on getting what they want, when they want it - regardless of the fact that it will make others unhappy. Learn to stand up for yourself without being arrogant or aggressive and you will definitely feel more mature. Here are some ways to communicate in an assertive style:
    - Use “I” statements. “You” statements make a person feel like they are being blamed and rejected. Staying focused on what you are feeling and experiencing allows you to remain productive and mature in your communication.
      - For example, instead of telling your parents, “You never listen to me!” try using an “I” statement like “I don’t think anyone heard my point of view.” When you clearly say how you feel, the other person is more likely to want to know why you feel that way.
    - Recognize the needs of others as well. The world doesn't revolve around you. It's good to express your feelings and emotions clearly, but also remember to ask others about their needs. The ability to put others first before yourself is real sign maturity.
    - Don't rush to conclusions. If you're not sure what happened, ask! Don't judge in advance - remember, you don't have all the information.
      - For example, if your friend forgot that you were planning to go shopping together, don't think that he doesn't think about you or that he's a terrible person.
      - Instead, use an “I” statement as an invitation to your friend to express his feelings: “I was really upset when you couldn’t go shopping. What's happened?"
    - Invite others to cooperate. Instead of saying “I want to go skateboarding,” ask others to participate in this: “What would you like to do?”
  3. Stop arguing. For many people in many cultures, mature communication involves avoiding swearing, especially swearing. Using bad language can shock others, or even make them feel like you don't respect them. It can also make others think that you are incompetent or a poor communicator. Instead of swearing, try to expand your vocabulary. As you learn new words, use them to express your thoughts and feelings.
    - If you often say curses when you are upset or hit, try turning it into a game, instead of cursing, come up with unusual expressions. Instead of cursing when you hit your foot, it's much funnier (and more expressive) if you say something unusual like "Stupid monkeys!"
  4. Speak politely without raising your voice. Raising your voice, especially when you're angry, is likely to make others feel uncomfortable. They may even decide not to pay attention to you. Screaming is for babies, not adults.
    
    Watch your body movements. Your gestures can say as much as your words. For example, crossing your arms in front of you may tell others that you are not interested in what they have to say. If you stand slouched during a conversation, this indicates that you are not really “here” or want to be somewhere else. Study your body's signals and make sure it is saying what you want to express.
    - Instead of crossing your arms in front of you, leave them relaxed on both sides of your body.
    - Stand straight, do not hunch, keep your head parallel to the floor.
    - Remember that your face can also give signals. Don't roll your eyes or look at the floor.
  5. Talk to people about serious topics. Such topics can be considered school, news, life experiences and life lessons that you received. Of course, you can spend some time joking around with your friends. It all depends on your surroundings. You may not want to talk about the same topics with best friend and a math teacher.
    - Ask questions. One of the signs of maturity is curiosity. If you only talk about your own things, you won't seem mature. Engage others in conversation. If someone tells you something interesting, ask them to tell you more about it!
    - Don't pretend you know something you don't really know. Admitting that you don't know something can be difficult. At the end of the day, you really need to become mature and informed. But pretending to know something will only make you look (or feel) stupid. It's much better to say something like, “I haven't read about that yet. We need to see it!”
  6. Say nice things. If you can't say anything positive, it's better to remain silent. Immature people constantly criticize and point out the shortcomings of other people, and do not hesitate to say things that are offensive in every sense. Sometimes they justify their cruelty by saying that they are “just being honest.” Mature people choose their words carefully and do not offend people in their efforts to be honest, so remember to watch your words and not say things that might hurt others. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.
    
    Learn to sincerely apologize for your mistakes. No matter how conscientious you are, from time to time you say something offensive or unwittingly offend other people. We all do stupid things sometimes, because no one is perfect. Learn to control your pride and say, “I apologize.” A sincere, honest apology for something you said or did will demonstrate your maturity.
  7. Handle both compliments and criticism maturely. If someone compliments you, say “thank you” and nothing more. If someone criticizes you, be polite and say something like, “Okay, I'll definitely think about it.” The criticism may be wrong, but if you take it politely, you will appear mature at the time.
    - Try not to take criticism personally. Sometimes people may try to help and express themselves incorrectly. If you think this is the case, ask for clarification: “I heard that you didn’t like my essay. Could you be more specific about this so I can take it into account in the future?”
    - Sometimes criticism tells us a lot more about the person giving it than about you. Whether she seems unfair or hurtful, remember that the other person may just be trying to make themselves look better by tearing you down. Don't let this affect you.
    - Accepting criticism politely doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself. If someone hurts your feelings, tell them in a polite and calm tone: “I'm sure you didn't mean it, but when you criticized my appearance, then this offended me greatly. Next time, could you please refrain from commenting on my appearance?”
  - Be kind, understanding friends and everyone! Be kind not just one day, but all the time.
  - Maturity is difficult to acquire. However, don't change yourself to become mature. Instead, strive to be who you are and be good. There are no more questions about who is older and who is younger. If you want people to take you seriously, think about how to act to make yourself heard, just remember that once you take the first step, you need to stand firm and not change your mind. If something goes wrong, try to remain calm and think about the next step, do not blame others, because you are doing something, and you are responsible for it. Be mature and responsible.
  - When you have a conflict with someone, do not argue, but try to resolve it in a calm, rational manner. If it turns into an argument, end it as soon as possible.
  - Treat others the way you would like to be treated. This is generally considered to be the definition of maturity.
  - Write down your goals for becoming more mature and plan your actions to achieve them. For example, you may decide to be quiet instead of constantly talking about yourself. Work on this for a week and then evaluate the result. Even if you are not perfect at it at first, keep trying.
  - Show mercy. Even if someone doesn't deserve a second chance, give it. It will make you greater and more mature.
  - You should know how to look in different situations. Hair orange color Spikes can express your personality, but if you work in a formal setting, such appearance may lead others to think that you are immature, even if this is not the case.
  - Try to focus your attention on other people's questions. This will make you seem more mature.
  - Punctuality is a virtue!

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